Cultural Predetermination.
Who can blame parents for wanting only the best for their children? Anyone who, for example, observes parents at the sports field these days can sense where the journey might be heading. The anger of an outraged mother when her child has supposedly been disadvantaged is truly unsettling. Always wanting only the very best for one’s own offspring inevitably means disadvantaging others within a community.
If one’s own child is to come first, all the others are left with the remaining places. In a society in which second place is already considered the first loser, this means that in every competition there are always more losers than winners.
Excessive parental ambition deprives the child of its playful, communal and genuinely childlike momentum. Wanting to protect one’s child from everything conceivable that might contain even the slightest trace or hint of negativity, disappointment or pain, this attitude first changes the natural character of a child, then that of a community, and ultimately that of a society.
It is not the children who cannot endure anything, but the parents. It is not the children who cannot lose, it is the parents. Wanting to turn children into winners from a very early age, preferably without any resistance, is that even possible? Is it conceivable and desirable? If everyone becomes a winner, who is left to lose?
Empathizing, sharing the excitement, that is the most natural thing in the world. Just like sharing joy and celebrating together. But if children are not allowed to make their experiences naturally because they have been protected from everything, how will they deal with defeats of any kind later in life? If losing cannot be coped with because winning is the only option, what does that do to children who later become adults?
This development is interesting to observe. On the one hand, there is a social tendency to spare children any disappointment. No grades. No mistakes. No results. No evaluations anymore.
On the other hand, desperate parents send their children to boot camps. The pendulum swings to extremes. Between protection and confrontation. Within this social field of tension, our nannies move. Because depending on the family, these aspects are interpreted, evaluated and lived very differently.
And at this point, we will not represent our own opinion or position. Not because we do not have one. But because with this contribution we simply want to show what a matter of luck and coincidence it is where a child is born into. And which often predetermined path it follows because of its origin. That is a privilege. Privileges are a responsibility of the individual towards others.
Beyond all of this, however, we have recognized one thing: The highest possible quality of loving, intensive and trusting social bonds seems to be the key to happiness in life. Studies clearly show that it is not wealth, power and fame that are responsible for great, lasting and enduring happiness, but the relationships that accompany a person through life. Family, friendships, acquaintances, they are the essential factor in being able, at the end of a life, to speak of a truly felt, great happiness.
The nanny supports and promotes exactly that. She knows how important bonds and relationships are for an entire lifetime. Therefore, she will always support everything that inspires, encourages and strengthens these relationships. The nanny is a relationship manager. She does everything to ensure that children have the best possible relationships.
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