Living together is organized and structured by rules—rules we learn over time because they are taught or modeled for us. They help us understand what is expected of us and what we may expect in return. Just as in sports or games, it is rules that prevent chaos.
We move through life within a system, a network, a construct of rules. But like morality, rules are not set in stone. Every era has its own moral framework, and therefore its own rules. That is why it is worthwhile—especially in a social context—to continually question rules in terms of their purpose and effectiveness, and to consider whether new or adapted rules might better serve certain aspects of life.
It is also advisable to become familiar with the rules of a new community—especially the invisible, unspoken ones. Recognizing them can greatly enhance harmony in coexistence.
As our understanding of roles has changed, so too have the rules. Not for everyone, perhaps, but certainly for future generations.
One may view constant change positively or negatively, but it cannot be stopped. Rules are not laws, not dogma. “Sort it out among yourselves” means: clarify it according to your rules, not mine. Rules provide orientation for how to behave and move within a society or community without conflict.
With each new generation, rules are adjusted and evolve. This is good and necessary, so that future generations can move freely and safely within a changing society. That is why we continually encourage young parents and nannies to put existing rules to the test of development—to ensure together that upbringing and growth are based on shared principles. This makes it clearer and easier for children to find their way in the world of the future.
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